Accountability Experiment Day 13: Soft Addictions

Soft Addiction ImageToday is Day 13 of my accountability experiment. I am trying to determine whether accountability is beneficial in my business and personal life.

The timing of this experiment was a little unfortunate, since I’ve been focusing on a single work commitment (finishing writing a book). I find it easy to be successful when I’m working on a single project, even if it hasn’t gone as quickly as I anticipated. Once the book is complete, I have an additional 16 items to finish before October 10th.

For now, the focus has been on instituting some healthy habits in my life — exercise, taking vitamins, and keeping daily track of my finances. Yesterday’s medication reaction has left me with stomach pain,  so I didn’t want the stress of vitamins on my fragile stomach. I did do some moderate stretching and updated my finances. For what it’s worth, I was going to play the sick card and not do my finances, then decided that I’d rather take the 2 minutes needed then ‘fess up to not doing it.

I’ve been reading a book called The Soft Addiction Solution. The author, Judith Wright, considers “hard addictions” to be alcohol and drug abuse. This book talks about soft addictions, which are behaviors we use to zone out. This includes watching too much TV, procrastinating and overeating. I’m sure everyone has soft addictions … I know that I am guilty of all three at various points. I think that admitting these addictions, and then setting limits via the accountability process, could be very helpful.

This afternoon I received an email that Call the Midwife (Season 3) was available on Netflix. I spent about 8 hours today working on my book, so tonight am ready for zoning out in front of the television.

To Be Done Before October 10, 2014

  1. Send Proposal for Blogging workshop — DONE
  2. Finish “Make Time to Blog Workbook” — IN PROCESS
  3. Choose price for workbook
  4. Print test copy of workbook
  5. Investigate printing options and have small amount print
  6. Choose compelling name for free coaching session
  7. Add opt-in box to website header
  8. Add additional security/backup to website
  9. Add additional analytics code to website
  10. Add payment module to website
  11. Create new website with squeeze page
  12. Film short video for squeeze page
  13. Add 5 part freebie course to aWeber
  14. Add book sale to aWeber
  15. Add free coaching session to aWeber
  16. Finish elevator speech
  17. Develop free coaching session coupon for attendees at conference
  18. Keep blog posts are up to date — DONE

Daily

  • Stretch and strengthen — NO
  • Elliptical
  • Daily walks (weather permitting) — NO
  • Update finances — DONE
  • Vitamins — NO
  • Healthy snacks — NO

 

Accountability Experiment Day 11: Setting Goals

smart goal setting conceptToday is Day 11 of my accountability experiment. I am trying to determine if accountability is helpful in my business and personal life.

So far, I have made big changes personally (which are covered in previous posts). However my working hours have been focused on finishing a book, so — other than keeping me focused on a single task — the accountability hasn’t played a big role in my business.

My goal was to have my book complete by Monday, September 22. I spent yesterday doing some additional research that I hadn’t anticipated, which put me behind schedule. My son is home from college for the weekend, so I’m excited to see him tonight after very little contact over the last six weeks. (And by “little contact” I mean not a single phone call or text in the last two weeks!)

With my son due home shortly, I was wondering if my accountability experience would motivate me to put in a full day of writing. Nope. I did some housekeeping and some baking. I even watched a TV show with my daughter. I did accomplish my personal goals (exercise, finances and vitamins), but otherwise felt like I was on vacation.

I think the problem may not be the accountability process. It is the way I set my goals. “Finish my book” was a lofty goal and, when I set it, I hadn’t worked on the project for months. I really had no idea how much time it would take. A better goal would have been “to spend 75 hours, over the next two weeks, working on my book.” That would have been something that was under my control.

I realize that a lot of my recent goals have been about outcomes, which I could not really control. Sure I want to “lose 5 pounds in 48 hours.” But a better goal would be to walk at least 2 miles per day, at least 5 days per week. That is under my control and I’m able to be successful.

The personal goals I set were controllable. My goal was not “to have a normal Vitamin D level on my December blood tests.” My goal was to take my vitamins every morning. Until I get more feedback via the blood tests, that’s all I can do.

I will be working over the weekend and hope my book will be done. If not, I’ll be talking to my coach on Monday. I’m going to change my “finish my book” goal to committing to six hours per day of writing until it’s complete.

To Be Done Before October 10, 2014

  1. Send Proposal for Blogging workshop — Done
  2. Finish “Make Time to Blog Workbook” — In Process
  3. Choose price for workbook
  4. Print test copy of workbook
  5. Investigate printing options and have small amount print
  6. Choose compelling name for free coaching session
  7. Add opt-in box to website header
  8. Add additional security/backup to website
  9. Add additional analytics code to website
  10. Add payment module to website
  11. Create new website with squeeze page
  12. Film short video for squeeze page
  13. Add 5 part freebie course to aWeber
  14. Add book sale to aWeber
  15. Add free coaching session to aWeber
  16. Finish elevator speech
  17. Develop free coaching session coupon for attendees at conference
  18. Keep blog posts are up to date — Done

Daily

  • Stretch and strengthen — Done
  • Elliptical
  • Daily walks (weather permitting) — Will be done later
  • Update finances — Done
  • Vitamins — Done
  • Healthy snacks — So far today

 

 

Accountability Experiment Day 8: Daily Contact

Email in the inboxToday begins the second week of the accountability experiment. I’m spending 30 days trying to determine if accountability is helpful or not in my life.

Today I want to address one facet of my accountability experiment — the daily communication with my coach.

Frankly, it’s uncomfortable. I’m a very private person and it feels weird to be emailing someone my goals and achievements. Frankly, I feel a bit like a stalker. I’m also concerned that I’m being a bother, because I’m sure he has better things to do than spend 60 seconds each day reading my emails.

I fully recognize that these are my issues. (And also the irony that I’m willing to post the goals on my blog for everyone interested to see, yet hesitate to show them to someone I’m paying to help me.)

I have coaching clients email me daily and I don’t feel “bothered.” In fact, I find it inspiring to have a daily window into their progress. So I’m ignoring my personal angst and sending along daily reports.

It’s 4:00 PM and I’m leaving shortly for an evening event. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn’t have taken the time to exercise or record my daily expenses. So, for today, accountability was very helpful. I feel like I am on my way to developing some very good habits.

To Be Done Before October 10, 2014

  1. Send Proposal for Blogging workshop
  2. Finish “Make Time to Blog Workbook” — IN PROGRESS
  3. Choose price for workbook
  4. Print test copy of workbook
  5. Investigate printing options and have small amount print
  6. Choose compelling name for free coaching session
  7. Add opt-in box to website header
  8. Add additional security/backup to website
  9. Add additional analytics code to website
  10. Add payment module to website
  11. Create new website with squeeze page
  12. Film short video for squeeze page
  13. Add 5 part freebie course to aWeber
  14. Add book sale to aWeber
  15. Add free coaching session to aWeber
  16. Finish elevator speech
  17. Develop free coaching session coupon for attendees at conference
  18. Keep blog posts are up to date — DONE

Daily

  • Stretch and strengthen — DONE
  • Elliptical
  • Daily walks (weather permitting)
  • Update finances — DONE
  • Vitamins — DONE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Accountability Experiment Day 7: Peer Support

Accountability 3d Word Collage Responsibility Culpability DutyToday is the 7th day of my accountability experiment, where I’m trying to decide if accountability is beneficial to my business and personal life.

This afternoon I had my regular weekly business conference call with three other business owners. We began meeting more than two years ago, originally as an accountability group. In the beginning, we would share our weekly goals and, the following week, report on our progress.

As the months went by, however, we became less about accountability and more about peer support. Eventually the support grew into friendship and the accountability portion fell away.

So I was surprised today when one of the members asked if we could re-introduce accountability into our meetings. It didn’t take too long for us to each commit to goals. I found the timing amazing, given my current accountability experiment (that none of them knew about).

I respect these ladies greatly. If they see that accountability has value in their businesses, I feel that is a strong vote for accountability having value in my life.

To Be Done Before October 10, 2014

  1. Send Proposal for Blogging workshop
  2. Finish “Make Time to Blog Workbook” — Lots of progress
  3. Choose price for workbook
  4. Print test copy of workbook
  5. Investigate printing options and have small amount print — Began
  6. Choose compelling name for free coaching session
  7. Add opt-in box to website header
  8. Add additional security/backup to website
  9. Add additional analytics code to website
  10. Add payment module to website
  11. Create new website with squeeze page
  12. Film short video for squeeze page
  13. Add 5 part freebie course to aWeber
  14. Add book sale to aWeber
  15. Add free coaching session to aWeber
  16. Finish elevator speech
  17. Develop free coaching session coupon for attendees at conference
  18. Keep blog posts are up to date

Daily

  • Stretch and strengthen — DONE
  • Elliptical
  • Daily walks (weather permitting) — DONE
  • Update finances — DONE
  • Vitamins — DONE